Disclaimer: To my One and Only BFF for life, Rony. No matter the distance, I know you will always be there for me as I to you. Till we meet again, check your WhatsApp!
Nowadays, human interaction is complex and undefined.
What is a friend? According to the internet, it is “a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations”.
What is a best friend? According to the Urban dictionary, “best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases they would take a bullet for you, coz it would be too painful to watch you get hurt”.
All is clear on paper, however misinterpreted at all times.
Unfortunately, when a guy and a girl befriend and become close, i-e best of friends, society misjudge the relationship because that kind of bond is unimaginable (hello narrow-minded brain, nice to meet you again!).
Rony has always been described as a sweet friend. Any one who has come in close contact with him has assured me that he would move mountains for his friends and be of help to any in need. Having Rony in my life since 2005 is a blessing in itself. I met Rony at university. We both shared the same major and it is normal that after bumping into one another we’d eventually bond over homework and common friends. Least did I know that I was gaining a best friend for life.
What started as a study work at Starbucks (from which stems my Bondie nickname- don’t ask!) evolved into sharing a cup of coffee on weekends. Furthermore, with the evolution of social media; HI5, Facebook, twitter and means of communication; BBM, Whatsapp, being in contact with friends became easy. I started calling Rony my friend. After graduation and over the years, we maintained our friendship. We both struggled in finding jobs and sticking to them. We, mutually, supported one another and met from time to time at Starbucks reminiscing university years and had a few laughs on our former teachers and peers (One story in particular ;)- )
When I needed advice, he was there. When I needed to sort out some legal paperwork, he found the right person to help me out. Once his word is given, it is never taken back. He means everything he says. He has taken me out clubbing with his friends when I was feeling down. We got drunk each and every time and ended at 4am having post-alcohol meals. He always made sure that I got back home safe by following me with his car. He would always leave when the parking lot door safely closed behind me. He fought the storm (literally) to pick me up just because I was bored at home. He pushed me to maintain our 6am daily jog while I instigated him to love photography. Through the good and the bad, sickness and in health, Rony has been the best friend anyone can ever wish for.
In the Middle East, it is common for gossip to start when a guy befriends a girl.
The first comment that they would hear is that one fancies the other. When both start spending time together, common interests + a few outings, rumors start spreading like the plague; 1- either they have evolved into friends with benefits or 2- they are dating, yet un-confirmed. I mean why would he post a profile picture of his best friend only, right? Well wrong! The beauty of this relationship is that it is a simple and strong friendship between two people from the opposite sex. This type of bond will not only start gossip, but will eventually unleash jealousy especially if one of the two has a significant other (Trust me we both got our share of psycho jealous gf/bf scenario).
To that I shall pinpoint that trust is the most important aspect of a relationship. I mean if your boyfriend is going to be jealous over ‘your’ Rony then it is he who has trust issues & lacks self- confidence and not your transparent friendship. Everyone has a best friend. Yet we rarely see a man and a woman committed to such an unbreakable bond. It is not your fault. Our generation has re-defined the concept of best friend. Nowadays two people from the opposite sex call themselves best friend just to hide the real meaning of their friendship; which revolves solely around sex. Generally, the people who tend to mistrust your friendship with your best friend (from the opposite sex) are the ones that have friends with benefits on the side or honestly have feelings for their bffs. Next time you have a boyfriend/girlfriend who is jealous over your best friend, ask yourself what might be the roots of such doubts (see previous sentence!!).
Either way, Rony is here to stay whether you like it or not! Don’t you ever let go of such a unique friend, because I AM NOT!
Now let’s go and share a Mocha Frappuccino. My treat! (virtually of course- for now!)